We actually had a great day of school today!
For the most part.
My three youngest boys love coffee! So my husband and I decided a few years ago that coffee was better than a lot of other drinks they could be consuming, so we make them a pot of decaf in the mornings to drink a cup while we have worship! They love lounging around in their PJ’s drinking a hot cup-a-joe!
It seems to me to put them in good place for discussions. They are enjoying themselves and don’t really want the moment to end…so they are apt to ask a lot of questions! This leads into deeper discussions and we just go with it until they start to peter out…or run out of coffee! (remember…it’s decaf! I’m not into self torture!)
This morning we went over our “Family Code of Rules” again. Some of the rules apply all of the time, but some of them will be specific to the school year. I am sure that most of you homeschooling moms have something like this, but if you don’t, it is a real good thing to do. My boys catch each other on some the things themselves! And they seem to like having a “code” just for our family!
Here is our family’s code of rules:
1. We will strive to keep God first in our lives and suit up in our heavenly armor daily!
2. We will be obedient to our mom and dad always.
3. No name calling (i.e. stupid, idiot, dummy, etc.) to others or ourselves. Remember the Golden Rule. (offenders loose 5 tickets)
4. Don’t make fun of anyone. Including friends and brothers. (offenders loose 5 tickets)
5. Never use the “hate” word. Not allowed. (offenders loose all tickets in their box)
6. If something doesn’t belong to you and the rightful owner says you can’t play with it, you can say “please” just once. If the answer is still “no”, then put it down and let it go! You may not continue asking. (If you are caught not respecting someone else’s property you will loose 20 tickets.)
7. If caught fighting over a video game, it will be taken away for a week. No questions.
8. Any physical fighting/wrestling that turns ugly will result in the involved parties being put in a room together until they can resolve their issues or relinquish all your tickets.
9. No video games from the time you get up in the morning until after school on weekdays. You may play from after school till dinner time. Then they stop until the next day. Getting caught playing a video system at an illegal time will result in loosing your system for at least a week. Depends on your attitude…could be longer, if your not careful.
10. Sodas are not allowed during the week. DON’T ASK! (Unless we make an exception for a special occasion.) If you do ask, everyone looses a day that you can have them. Friday after school to Sunday afternoon, you can ask. But it doesn’t mean the answer will be yes!
11. No snacks after 5pm. Too close to dinner time.
12. Mom is not a short order cook. Whatever she has made for a meal is what we will eat – without complaining or making an ugly face; even if it is not our favorite. (Offenders will loose 2 tickets.)
13. If it is close to a meal time and you are hungry – don’t come in the kitchen and complain – come in and help make the meal or hush up and leave the area! (offenders will loose 2 tickets.)
14. We will not watch anything on T.V. that we couldn’t be comfortable watching with Jesus sitting next to us.
15. We will all do our part to uplift and encourage every member of this family, in anything that they have a passion for or enjoy doing, even if we don’t share in that passion.
(I will tell you about the tickets at another time. I have to hurry and finish this so I can go start dinner!)
I hope this might motivate someone to try making a code for the their family! You know they will all be different for different family’s and beliefs, but involve the kids! We did this together, the boys and I, last year…and I have to say, some of the rules they wanted were pretty tough. They also came up with most of the punishment themselves! And funny thing is…it works! I have learned over the last few years to start the conversation, and then be quiet…and let them lead where it goes! It is very interesting and enlightening most of the time! What more could a mom ask for than to be in a wonderful (lengthy) conversation with her children, whether it’s about when they can have a soda, or how to treat themselves and others! I homeschool for moments like that!